September 18, 2016

Real Talk: After Breaking Up, To Delete or Not Delete! That is the Question!

Ok, so real talk...after ending a relationship, is it necessary to delete your ex from all your social media pages?

Out of sight out of mind, as they say. But, is it really that necessary???

In the current day and age of social media and people freely sharing their relationships on their various social media platforms, once a relationship ends this question usually comes up. To delete or not to delete?

Some prefer to delete everything and fully disconnect from an ex, while some may not mind keeping some sort of connection to their ex on social media or to keep memories of their relationship. For the most part, the former is usually the case when there is a really bad breakup, whereas the latter seems more likely for an amicable breakup.

In my view, I don't think its its necessary to completely delete an ex from your social media pages. How else are they supposed to see how great you are doing without them? HA!

On the other hand, if you are hurt by the breakup, I guess it wouldn't feel great seeing your ex popping up on your timeline either. This might also put you at risk of contacting them against your own best judgement when you find yourself reminiscing about the good times. To avoid this, for some it reaches the point where they even block them from their social media pages and delete their ex's number from their phone. 

...and hopefully it doesn't reach this point! lol
But if you block them, they'll probably block you too, so now you can no longer secretly creep what they are up to on their page LOL! However, you also don't want to accidentally like one of their pics while creeping...

But seriously, I don't think I would completely delete, block or unfollow an ex, even if it was a bad breakup, then again I wouldn't even be sharing much about a relationship on social media to begin with. I think this  is the best method to save you the trouble if things go south down the road. People on social media also have an eagle eye and see everything! Especially those who creep your page lol. As soon as people notice that pictures of your partner are gone or that you have unfollowed eachother, it's a give in that your breakup will known or begin to be speculated, proceeded by unnecessary questions being asked. Ain't nobody got time for that!

This is why, ain't nobody gonna see a pic of my partner until our wedding day! Just kidding. Sharing photo's of your relationship I think is fine, but I think keeping it minimal and in moderation is best. In the case where one party is harassing the other through these platforms, then I guess deleting and blocking definitely makes sense. As grown adults I would hope it wouldn't come to that, but some exes can be crazy. At the end of the day, I think to each their own.

Breakups are tough, but I don't see it necessary to delete your ex from everything! I mean, I still need their number in my phone so I know when not to answer LOL! Well...I'm just keeping it real!

So real talk, what are your thoughts?